We’ve all been there — waking up, literally or figuratively, to an idea that is so effing awesome you can’t wait to share it. The fire in your belly is lit and you are vibrating with energy. But, then comes the implementation of this amazing, profound, creative idea and all of a sudden we start talking ourselves out of what we once felt inside our soul as “the calling” or at least a piece of the calling. Our friends aren’t excited, the process is too long, the list starts compounding in reasons why not. We let the outside world start to snuff our inner fire.
This is the dialogue of limiting beliefs. We are pre-programmed to resist change and we are hard wired to avoid rejection.
If you have a spark inside you with an idea behind it, don’t wait until it’s perfect to start sharing it. Do it now. Put it into play until it becomes a well oiled machine. We don’t all start out in the place where we want to end up. Getting there takes effort and it takes being rejected, not everyone is going to see how brilliant the idea or offering is. That is simple math. Not everyone will like what you are doing. They don’t have to. You’re doing this for the creative passion that is an integrated part of your being. We are dualistic opposing forces inside one physical body. A side of us that craves to be seen and to contribute to the wellbeing of society and a side of us that is scared to step up and put ourselves out there to be rejected. It is always the voice of rejection that seems to play the loudest when we first start following our gut instinct to be of service.
Here are 5 simple things I do to avoid my limiting beliefs and fears from holding me back of sharing magic with my community.
1. I take away my power or ownership in the situation. I am a channel of creative energy, a passage way for creativity to flow. We may feel like these are our original ideas but they are gifts from the universe. We can put them into practice or let them move along to someone who will. Read — The Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert if you ever need a kick in the patootie.
2. I realize who I am and what I am about is not for everyone. I no longer take this personally. Initially, maybe yes. But, those who oppose us or reject us are brilliant teachers of what it feels like to be deeply accepted by those who do support you, those people who stand by you no matter what. If we never feel the bitterness of rejection, we can never wholly embrace the sweetness of acceptance. Love those people, learn from the others.
3. Does it really even matter? I ask myself this when I feel rejected or see the anxiety and fear start to rise. In 1 weeks time, will I look back and see this as a something big or small. Will it still be with me in 1 month, 1 year, 5 years. The answer is — most likely not. So, don’t let the fear of what you’re feeling now hold you back. In 5 years you can be kicking ass and taking names instead of kicking stones and thinking about what could have been.
4. Surround yourself with people who take risks, people who are living their dreams. If you don’t have them in your physical world, find them online. Interact, speak, share. The more you talk about your idea, the more refined it becomes — the more inspired you’ll be. Find motivators. Find influencers who make you feel GOOD, not less than.
5. Don’t give up. Modify, alter, adjust, change course…but never, ever give up. Some story lines that operate in the subconscious mind want you to believe it is easier to give up. This is an ancient story that was used to keep you safe, but, we have outgrown that old story. See your unconscious dialogue for what it is, and then rebel.
You are a powerful channel of creativity and without you and those that have been brave enough to share the most vulnerable pieces of themselves, this world would be a pretty dull place to live. You are a change maker, you just need to show up.
Setting foot in front of foot is easy, keep moving. Some days will move slow, maybe not at all. Keep pressing. Keep sharing.
I’ll be over here cheering you on.
