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5 Signs You Might Be A Wounded Healer

Updated: Oct 10, 2022

It’s been a long and arduous journey for our ancestors and ourselves. The power we once had as Healers became feared and extinguished, we learned to shrink back through every cell of our being to stay safe. When we started to shrink back, we became invisible. A fear was developed of being seen, and with being seen comes the feeling of being valued.

The Healers of the past went from being revered far and wide, to feared far and wide. Those who sought us out began to believe the rhetoric of who we were: evil, untrustworthy, devil worshippers, ungodly, casting spells and stealing children. And so began a new era of hiding who you were for fear of being punished, and at times, being killed.

This created a frequency of fear surrounding a Healer's want to be seen and to feel valued. To feel valued meant we had to be seen again, and we had to risk being seen for who we truly are - a non-conformist who lives a sacred life attuned to the frequencies of energy and the cycles of nature.

You’re being moved through many initiations while reclaiming your healing hands, here are 5 SIGNS YOU MAY BE A WOUNDED HEALER:


Even seeing that word may make you cringe and have a visceral reaction that I would dare bring up money and healing side by side.

This was programmed into the wounded healer when her worth was stolen from her. When her gifts were tossed aside and turned against her, our cells were programmed to refuse the thoughts that our gifts were valuable. Instead, we see our gifts as a flaw, or something that needs to be hidden for fear of rejection.

There are many, many Healers afraid to receive money for the work that they do.

They overlook the sacred law of energy exchange to appease the belief that they are not worthy (or, that others are worth more) - and in some way we are fundamentally wrong. You are here at this time, to raise the vibration of this frequency. If you struggle with this exchange, you are here to fully accept your gifts, that you are valuable, and so are your services.


You take your time, and you take longer than necessary to do almost everything.

This is an old wound.

It’s the part of yourself that dreads completing anything for fear of being judged. You know all too well the consequences of being judged and your body remembers. If you never complete anything, you’ll never be noticed, and you’ll be safe. The safety of our ancestors, and the horrors that they endured, are not our current struggles.

Our current struggles live within us in the form of thoughts and stories. We tell ourselves that we’ll be ready when this happens, or when that person stops judging me. We have forgotten just how valuable time is, and that it stops for no one in this life.

You reincarnated here, right now, for this rising. You are here at the exact moment you need to be to feel the courage that it will take to Rise.


You give too much, too easily, and people take it and injure you with it.

You’ve forgotten what it’s like to be wholly loved.

Wholly loved, wholly accepted, and wholly respected. Those old wounds of being ostracized, cast away, and at the very least, mocked, are keeping you from fully investing the love you give to others, back into yourself. You deserve this love, and you are absolutely capable of giving it.

When you overlook the value of your own self love - I mean the kind that shows up in EVERY aspect of your life, you are overlooking the value of loving YOU. That vibration acts like a magnet and people respond to it. If you’re waiting for others to change the way they love you (or don’t), you’re waiting to see if your own love is enough. You don’t need to seek the approval of anyone other than you.

If you’re waiting for the ones you love to give you permission to be who you are - you’ll be waiting until you give yourself permission to be exactly as you are.


You bounce from thing to thing. Curious and intense in one minute, and gone the next.

This lack of steadiness comes from a deep desire to outrun your innate knowing. If you don’t slow down, you’ll never become comfortable enough to hear your inner voice speak to you in the way you know it wants to.

When you’re constantly learning, and not spending enough time reflecting and integrating, you block the connection to source. When the brain is engaged, the ego is alert. When the brain is passive, doing everyday things like driving, walking, vacuuming, your inner knowing is present.

The soft passive state of sacred ritual - taking care of your body in the shower, blow drying your hair, sitting in circle with likeminded women - are the ripe and fertile grounds for your inner healer to speak to you. This is when you receive the guidance, or knowings, that are blocked when you are in a constant state of turmoil.

This is avoidance of the deep connection you know that you crave and this is the distraction that is keeping you “safe” from fully stepping into who you are.


If learning a lesson is good one time around, it must be good a second, third, fourth, tenth time around, right?

If you are someone who is in a cycle of repetition, repeating the same cycle of pain, punishment, disappointment, rejection, you are feeding the old wound that you aren’t worthy. You aren’t worthy of peace, safety, love, acceptance, support, stability - any of these sound familiar?

When there is a wound as deep as a Healers, you will try to express it, play it out, and heal it until it is complete. That person that you always forgive, that never learns - that’s you. That’s you that is choosing to value others over yourself, and that is an aspect of one of the qualities that makes you so beautiful.

You want others to feel safe, loved and respected. You would never want to make them uncomfortable by setting boundaries around your time, love, and attention. It’s easier for you to put your feelings aside and make sure everyone else is comfortable. As an empath and Healer, you have shifted your focus to outside yourself to avoid the pain of the previous wounds.

If you can help others, this gives you a moment of freedom from the ache of holding these wounds. But the wounds are asking to be looked at. They are asking to be seen. They are asking to be healed. Through sacred ritual, conscious choice, and deep inner work, this aspect of yourself can be healed. When you complete a cycle, all of the other wounds receive a stitch as well.

Our reality is our teacher. What you wish would change, can.

Gathering with women, being witnessed, and using your voice begins the reclamation of your innate gifts and your service to this planet. Surrounding yourself with women of the same frequency breaks through the trust barrier that we have created around our hearts in an effort to stay safe, and alive. The time is ripe to gather again. You are here to Rise.

Join the intentional gathering of your Sisters. Step onto The Priestess Path where the destination is YOU. Every ritual, ceremony and circle is held in honor of you - who you are, and who you are becoming.

This is not the great undoing. It’s the becoming. Becoming who you came here to be

- a Healer.


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